Our belief system is critical to our perspective of life’s events, how we see other people and the world at large, what we think about ourselves and what we fear.
So where does our belief system come from?
We were not born with doubts about ourselves, low self-esteem, not feeling good enough, not trusting other people or thinking flying is dangerous. We are born with only two fears; the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises.
Our beliefs are formed due to life’s events, information we collate from other people and things we see on television or social media.
When you are very young you probably believed in the Tooth Fairy and Santa Claus because you were told about them and never questioned that information. Until approximately 5 years of age your brainwaves are such that you will accept what you are told. After this age we start questioning things a little more.
What we are told during the first 6 years of life can be quite significant in forming our beliefs. However, events that happen after this time can also cause certain beliefs to be formed. This is something that I recognise every day in my work.
Sometimes we don’t know consciously where those beliefs come from and it can be a surprise for some people to find out. Often an event you think of as quite insignificant can have had a dramatic impact on your belief system at the time it happened. Here’s an example:
At 10 years old, you are performing on the stage at school reading a poem to the entire school and you forget your lines. You just want to run away, you can feel panic begin to set in but thankfully a teacher helps you and you manage to finish the poem although you are very embarrassed. At the moment you forget your lines and want to run, you are in the fight or flight mode and a subconscious belief is formed along the lines of “I’m useless”, “I’m not good enough” or “I’m stupid”.
What then happens is every time you do something well, your mind does not compute that you are good enough, clever or capable because you’ve already formed the negative belief about yourself. However, every time you make a mistake or get something wrong, it confirms that negative belief.
When young we don’t have the benefit of perspective that we do as adults. If this happened much later in life and you were generally a confident person, you may think “well, I messed up there but it’s no big deal, I’ll do better next time”.
What are your beliefs?
So the question is ‘what do you think about yourself’? Here are some possibilities:
- “I’m not good enough“
- “I’m not capable“
- “I’m insignificant“
- “I’m stupid“
The reasons for your beliefs are buried within your subconscious. By addressing the connected memories it is possible to change that belief system.
You may have a clue to your beliefs by noticing what situations you avoid and the ones you strive in or the type of people you like and dislike. Also, how you talk to yourself can be a big giveaway eg “I’ve messed up again“, “I could never do that, I’m not confident enough” or “I can never get things right“.
It’s all Perception
We are what we think we are but in reality everything is just perception. How we see ourselves and everyone else is just perception, as a result of our life experiences and the things we have been told. Isn’t it far better to have a good perception of yourself that makes you feel good?
Want to know more?
If you would like to know how I can help you please get in touch with me.
ANN BOWDITCH is a member and trainer registered on the General Hypnotherapy Register and General Hypnotherapy Standards Council and has run her own private practice in Guernsey for 7 years. She is also a practitioner of a number of therapies including EFT, Energy in Motion, META Health, NES Health, Matrix Reimprinting, Colour Mirrors. Ann is also a RMTi Consultant – the only one in the Channel islands. She uses her skills to help people overcome many issues including depression, health, stress, weight loss, cravings, addictions, anxiety, insomnia, bullying and confidence issues. Ann works in a unique way often by combining therapies tailoring sessions specifically for the individual.
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Ann Bowditch GQHP, GHR Reg., META-P
Dip (Hyp) Hypnotherapy
EFT (AAMET Certified) & Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner
Meta-Health & Colour Mirrors Practitioner
RMTi Consultant, NES Health Practitioner
PSTEC Level 1-A (Advanced PSTEC)
Tel: 07781 111186
Ann Bowditch is a Member & Trainer registered on the General Hypnotherapy Register