There are many possible reasons for social anxiety which often begins to come into play in late teens, early 20s as we are more aware of ourselves; how we look and notice the differences (rather than similarities) between ourselves and others. Below are some reasons for social anxiety:-
- Lack of self confidence/esteem
- Having been bullied
- Dislike of being centre of attention
- Being a introvert
- Traits of Asperger’s Syndrome
- Not feeling clever enough
- Feeling you don’t fit in
- It is an extension of generalised anxiety
Some people will only socialise under the influence of alcohol and may even need an alcoholic drink to get out of the door. Alcohol lets our inhibitions down, so we feel more relaxed and free to express ourselves. This is why so many people won’t socialise without alcohol but it’s not the solution to the problem that most people want to take.
A Few Tips To Help in Social Situations
- You may be feeling self conscious but every other person in the room is more interested in themselves than how you look or what you are wearing.
- If you think that everyone else in the room is better than you then think again – they are not! There will be things you can do better than just about every other person in the room.
- Find a similar ground for conversation. Most people like talking about themselves so ask them about themselves – holidays, work, family, hobbies etc. Keep it simple.
- Smile as it makes you appear more approachable to others.
- Don’t feel pressurised to go to events you really do not like going to. Go to events that you have an interest in and are more likely to meet like minded people.
Overcoming Social Anxiety
By resolving the reasons behind your social anxiety you can drop your inhibitions and feel more confident to socialise. This can be done using therapies such as Hypnotherapy and Emotional Freedom Technique – these are just some of the techniques I use at HHH. The mind is a powerful tool, you can use it in the most unhelpful or positive way.
If you would like to find out more about how I can help you or you in any area of life, health and well-being please get in touch.
ANN BOWDITCH is a member and trainer registered on the General Hypnotherapy Register and has run her own private practice in Guernsey for 6 years. She is also a practitioner of a number of therapies including EFT, EmoTrance, META Health, NES Health, Matrix Reimprinting, Colour Mirrors. Ann is also a RMTi Consultant – the only one in the Channel islands. She uses her skills to help people overcome many issues including depression, health, stress, weight loss, cravings, addictions, anxiety, insomnia, bullying and confidence issues. Ann works in a unique way often by combining therapies tailoring sessions specifically for the individual.
If you wish to find out how Ann can help you please contact her here.
Ann Bowditch GQHP, GHR Reg., META-P
Dip (Hyp) Hypnotherapy
EFT (AAMET Certified) & Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner
Meta-Health & Colour Mirrors Practitioner
RMTi Consultant, NES Health Practitioner
PSTEC Level 1-A (Advanced PSTEC)
Tel: 07781 111186
Ann Bowditch is a Member & Trainer registered on the General Hypnotherapy Register